He shoots… his mouth off

Castlegar News bi-weekly columnist Karen Haviland vents over a hockey-parenting issue

Oh boy. My husband’s not going to like reading this column one bit.

I’m sitting here at the computer, gleaning column ideas from online newspapers, the sound of a raucous hockey game in the background and I came upon this story about a Winnipeg hockey dad who was less than sportsmanlike at his son’s game.

The irate and belligerent dad, Jason Boyd, is holding a child in his arms as he threatens another hockey dad, saying he will “cave your glasses in.” I watched the video and quite frankly, it sickened me as this isn’t the first time I have seen such unwarranted aggressiveness by a hockey dad.

Suffice to say that hockey has never been a sport I have enjoyed, much to my husband’s chagrin. Even more so since the hockey dispute is now resolved and said husband is getting his non-stop fix from Dish’s Hockey Central channel.

I know, I know, it’s almost like heresy for a Canadian to not like hockey. Maybe it has to do with the fact that, while I am Canadian born and living in Canada, I was not necessarily Canadian raised, being raised mostly in the States until I was 24. Or, maybe it’s just the fact that I can’t, for the life of me, understand why grown men on skates have to resort to brawls when playing the game. Even worse, is that the fans seem to ghoulishly wait with baited breath for those brawls and then, when it happens, get so very involved wanting to see at least some show of blood. I just don’t get it. I really don’t.

While hockey seems to be the worst for this, I’ve seen it at other sports venues. Well, maybe not at tennis or ping pong, but for sure at minor league soccer and baseball games. The worst of it though, is that at the minor league games it’s the parents who set this “proud” (said facetiously) example for their young and impressionable children.

While I know there are sanctions against such ignorant and irresponsible behaviour and that it is greatly frowned upon, I know there are some parents who just can’t seem to help themselves. I guess that upon contemplation, it’s not the game to blame, but rather the actions of such parents.

That’s why I think Respect in Sports, an online certification program geared towards “creating a safer environment for all participants; coaches. managers, trainers, administration and volunteers and even parents” is a great idea and is actually mandatory for hockey parents in Alberta. It’s sad though, that nowadays we have to mandate good sportsmanship programs because of a few individuals.

It’s not so sad, however, that the Lord Selkirk Minor Hockey Association voted to suspend Boyd from all hockey arenas for the rest of the season.

Hopefully that will curb Boyd from such future behaviour. Or maybe now that the video of his tirade, posted on YouTube, has gone viral it will be enough to encourage Boyd to truly look at his behaviour and reconsider what’s appropriate and sportsmanlike and thus enable him to become a better parent and start modeling good behavior for his son. Only time will tell, I guess.

I tip my hat to all of you wonderful parents out there who unfailingly get up early each and every morning so your child has ice time, and to those of you who realize it’s just a game and not the end of the world. You are raising children who will truly understand the word “sportsmanship” and for that alone, maybe a time will come when parents won’t have to be mandated to learn what it means.

To the Jason Boyds of the world, shame on you.

Just Posted

Choir leader’s selfless work wins her Castlegar Citizen of the Year

Christina Nolan has grown the community choir into a strong and vibrant asset for the city

Water main maintenance ongoing in South Castlegar and Blueberry

Project will take two weeks — city says there should not be any service disruptions

Downtown businesses want you to love them this weekend

Third annual event encourages people to shop in their own community.

Police investigating man’s death in Winlaw

Foul play not established, but major crimes unit is investigating

Grand Forks woman assaulted in home invasion

The incident took place Wednesday morning

VIDEO: Canadian breaks women’s world record for longest plank

Dana Glowacka, of Montreal, held a plank for four hours and 20 minutes

Kamloops girl, 9, recovering from carbon monoxide poisoning now out of ICU

Her mother who was sleeping in the same tent with her did not survive

‘I think he’s still alive’: B.C. mom pleads for help finding son last seen a month ago

Family offering $5,000 reward for information leading to the safe return of Tim Delahaye

New poll suggests one-third don’t want politicians to wear religious symbols

Local politicians shouldn’t be allowed to wear hijabs, crucifixes or turbans on the job, survey suggests

Raptors fans far from home adjust plans to watch pivotal playoff game

Raptors currently lead the playoff series 3-2, and a win Saturday would vault them into NBA finals

Five takeaways from the Court of Appeal ruling on B.C.’s pipeline law

It’s unclear how many tools are left in B.C.’s toolbox to fight the project

Kootenay man arrested and charged in 2015 murder

Nathaniel Jessup 32 of Creston has been charged with the second-degree murder of Katherine McAdam and offering an indignity to a body.

Scheer says it would take Conservatives five years to balance budget

Scheeraccused the Liberal government of spending $79.5 billion of previously unbudgeted funds

B.C. man, 30, arrested for driving his parents’ cars while impaired twice in one day

The Vancouver-area man was arrested after officers caught him driving impaired twice in one day

Most Read